Tuesday, October 28, 2025

Dear 1036: The Market and Confirmation Celebration at Home

Dearly Beloved 1036,

October 2025 is a special month.

The 50th Season of the Oak Park Farmers' Market concluded on Saturday.  Since I was little, I enjoyed going to the Market and coming home with goods, like the renowned donuts.  I also enjoyed going there to get apples and a pumpkin to carve toward the end of the season.  More recently, one product that has fascinated me is the microgreens.  After coming home from the market, I enjoyed tossing them on top of some meat and even wrapping it in a tortilla for a delicious lunch.

Also of great note this month, I celebrated the 20th anniversary of my Confirmation on October 15.  To this day, Saturday, October 15, 2005, remains one of the most important days of my life, and I have so many wonderful memories of it.

The Confirmation Mass began at 5 PM, and ended a few minutes after 7 PM.  My family decided to host a celebratory dinner back at home for everyone who came.  Dad, Uncle Bernie, Grandma Vel, Grandpa Jose, and I went to the reception after Mass to get pictures with Bishop Kane and enjoy some treats.  Mom, Grandma Dottie, Aunt June, and Eric returned home.  Eric went to DiNico's to pick up a large pizza, probably the stadium size.  We also had a large pot of soup from a starter mix.

I got many wonderful gifts.  On Dad's prompting, he and Mom got me a book of Bible verses for teens.  Abuela/Grandma Vel and Abuelo/Grandpa José offered me some wonderful gifts, including art images.  The Gospel reading for that weekend's Sunday liturgy, which was used at Mass, was the story of when important religious figures tried to trap Jesus by asking Him if it was lawful to pay the tax or not.  Abuelo gave me a card with an image of a painting of this story.  I keep it in the Bible I got as a gift upon completing Religious Education toward the end of 8th grade at the page with Matthew 22:15-22.  Abuela gave me a hand-drawn sketch of the Holy Family.  She found it at the St. Cornelius rummage sale.  Based on the note written on back, it was given to a priest named Father George upon his ordination.  Grandma also included some Holy Spirit prayers.

The Holy Family is a model for all us for how we can grow in virtue and holiness together as a family and so live fully aware of God's presence.  What flowed forth from special divine encounters like Confirmation brought meaning to what we shared together as a family in you, 1036.

With joy in the Holy Spirit, and with gladness before and gratitude to God, I declare that you shall not fade into the background but remain deep in my heart as that dearly beloved place.

We remain ever connected:
All my relations.

God's blessings,
Paul


Sunday, October 26, 2025

Continued Learning in the Spirit

As I mark the 20th anniversary of my Confirmation, I reflect on what I've continued to learn in those 20 years, especially in light of my involvement with Religious Education.

I studied the 7 Gifts of the Holy Spirit, especially through creating a scrapbook as part of preparing for Confirmation.  My understanding has deepened of those Gifts that are an important effect of Confirmation.  There are gifts that help us to be in tune with God's perspective, and those help us boldly live out our faith.

During my own preparation for Confirmation, I selected the name St. George.  In the 20 years since Confirmation, I've learned so many other amazing saint stories.  It's also inspiring to follow the causes of canonization and see the important steps unfold, like with St. Carlo Acutis, and also Blessed Father Michael McGivney, whose Beatification Mass I watched.  Another inspiring story is that of Servant of God Michelle Duppong.  These saints come from all walks of life, showing that holiness is meant universally for all, and we are called to grow in holiness wherever God places us, so that He may be magnified and glorified.

Saturday, October 18, 2025

In the 20 Years with the Holy Spirit

As I reflect on the glorious encounter with God I had on Saturday, October 15, 2005, in the sacrament of Confirmation, I realize how much of a nexus point it was for me.  So much had shaped my life leading up to that moment, especially an abundant appreciation for faith that happened in middle school.  And it was clear something impactful happened.  In fact, a couple of months later, when my literature teacher, Ms. Kinnan, gave us an assignment to write about a transformative experience in my life, I jumped at the opportunity to narrate my Confirmation experience, including the preparation process.

In the 20 years since my Confirmation, so much has unfolded that has been graced by the seal of the Holy Spirit on me.

Here's a list of 20 memorable faith experiences. It's not necessarily an exhaustive list, but is what comes to my mind as I reflect:

From the day of my Confirmation, I have developed a wonderful relationship with Uncle Bernie, my sponsor.

Soon after Confirmation, I started serving as a lector.

Father Loya's Presentation at Ascension in 2007

My involvement at St. Teresa's was a tremendous blessing and included some amazing opportunities, like the Kairos Retreat and the Wilderness Retreat.

Attending Father Ted Mauch's Ordination Mass in person at the Cathedral of the Holy Angels in Gary

Attending Deacon Bob Marben's Ordination Mass in person at the Cathedral of the Holy Angels in Gary

The St. Augustine Mission Trip

It was so special to visit the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception for the first time in 2013, and I've been drawn to return regularly.

Nearby, I've appreciated the National Shrine of St. John Paul II, and I've been drawn to return regularly there.

Joining the Knights of Columbus

Attending World Youth Day 2019

Attending Real Life Catholic event with Chris Stefanick

Discovering the riches of the Theology of the Body teachings

Attending the 2023 National Catholic Singles Conference in Plymouth, MI, and other opportunities with NCSC

The National Eucharistic Congress

Pope Leo XIV's celebration at Guaranteed Rate Field

Participating in the various March for Life events in Illinois, which included serving as a marshal with fellow Knights at the 2025 Illinois March for Life in Springfield, IL.

My involvement with Religious Education has been an enormous blessing.

Wednesday, October 15, 2025

Joy in the Holy Spirit for 20 Years

With joy in the Holy Spirit, I celebrate the 20th anniversary of my Confirmation today.  It was a significant Kairos nexus point in my life.  My faith had been shaped in so many ways up to this moment of encountering God, and I would be sent forth from it in a powerful way.

As an initiation sacrament, Confirmation is intended to complete the grace that we receive in baptism.  As Father Hurlbert, former Ascension Parish pastor, would tell the youths preparing for Confirmation, all the baptized have an invisible tattoo on the forehead that was traced there at baptism.  As I like to extend the metaphor, that tattoo gets oiled up in Confirmation.  In this sacrament, we receive an outpouring of the Holy Spirit and His seven gifts, which empowers us to uphold the faith.

I saw a citizenship ceremony 4 weeks ago as part of the Constitution (Signing) Day festivities at the National Constitution Center.  In my career, I've had at least 2 co-workers who became naturalized citizens.  With them in mind, I thought about how naturalized citizens spend years preparing, which includes studying for an oral test on knowledge of the USA and its government.  Then comes the momentous occasion when they take the oath of citizenship, which opens up for them the great opportunity to participate in the USA and its government processes.  I had that in mind when I went to the first of a series of monthly Confirmation preparation meetings that evening.  I got to meet my new group for this year, and I encouraged them at the start of their preparation by telling them about these newly naturalized citizens.  Similarly, we all spend time preparing for Confirmation to have a grounding in faith, and then, once Confirmed, we start an amazing new life with the gifts and graces of the Holy Spirit.

For the past 11 months, I've reflected on the preparation process through short posts that focused on the various topics at those meetings:  I started an important journey in November that would make me new.  I learned about the sacraments in December.  I learned about the Creed in January.  In February, I considered service as part of Confirmation and took stock of all I had learned.  I learned about the symbolism in the Church sanctuary in March.  I considered how the Holy Spirit works in the lives of the faithful through those who shared their testimony at the April meeting.  I put my knowledge to work in completing a test in May and considered all that I learned in the process.  I reflected on faith and Scripture as it shows a picture of the Kingdom of God at the summer meeting in July.  I came to understand what Confirmation is all about at the September meeting.  And I came to realize the implications of Confirmation at the retreat in September.

Throughout the months from November to May, we had Scripture reflection sheets to complete, in which we thought in-depth about the passages of Scripture for Mass on Sundays and Holy Days.  One of the reforms of the Vatican II Council was the intention that the faithful would more actively participate in Mass.  Those Scripture reflections helped me ponder more deeply what I was hearing at Mass.  Those sheets were in a red binder that each student had.  Three years after my Confirmation, I attended the Confirmation Vigil for the 2008 group.  Mrs. Ondrla told them to keep their red binders for three years, and then, look at the Scripture reflection sheets as a way to see that while the Scripture readings remain the same in a 3-year cycle, each of us changes.  I still have my red binder with all those reflection sheets, and I read them each time the set of readings comes up again, and I can see how I have progressed in my understanding of faith since 8th grade.

So much of the Confirmation process was learning about what we believe as a Church and why it matters.  I entered into this process having been profoundly impacted by my middle school experience.  As I have mentioned before, interacting with people of other religious and cultural backgrounds at Julian Middle School caused me to turn inward and reflect more on who I am, and I appreciated who I am even more.  With a greater embrace of faith, I knew that it was meant to be something by which I would make a holy impact on the world.  While my Confirmation happened at the beginning of my high school years, it was undoubtedly shaped to be an impactful experience by what happened in middle school.  As I anticipated this anniversary today, I was so delighted that the 20th anniversary of my 8th grade graduation was on Pentecost Sunday, a celebration of the Holy Spirit's working in my life.

Clearly, Confirmation was a new beginning for me, and so much of the Mass that day and the dinner at beloved 1036 Clarence afterwards helped truly make it a time of celebration, like the choir being present to offer music and the dinner with DiNico's Pizza and soup, along with the wonderful gifts I received.  

It wasn't clear what life as a Confirmed Roman Catholic would exactly look like in the first few weeks and months.  I took important steps to make something of faith, like lectoring at Mass, which was an opportunity for me to continue building my understanding of Scripture, and share my gifts and talents.  I thank Mrs. Ondrla for giving me the opportunity to lector at two RE Masses, which then made it a good fit going forward into high school.

Then, when I went to college, I built upon my Confirmation by getting involved at St. Teresa's, and my understanding of faith got even greater.  There was so much more to learn about faith, and St. Teresa's provided a place where I could learn, and experience a community that would empower me in faith.  There's no doubt that being part of St. Teresa's was part of God's big plan for me because I was confirmed on the Feast of St. Teresa of Avila.

I developed such a vibrant faith life in college, and after graduating, as I thought about what I would do in life, I sensed teaching Religious Education would be a great way to channel the great gift of a vibrant faith and act on it by supporting youth in their journey of faith.  My involvement as a Religious Education volunteer, in the classroom, and at Confirmation preparation meetings, has been so rewarding and a tremendous blessing.

The evening before the Confirmation Mass set the tone.  There was a prayer vigil, and I wasn't expecting the Church bells to ring shortly before it started and then a procession with candles up the main aisle to the altar.  Nevertheless, it underscored what had been part of the process all along, that Confirmation would be a powerful encounter with God.  We also chanted the Litany of the Saints, an awesome reminder of our friends in Heaven, and that we share in communion with them, throughout the centuries of the Church.

The readings at the Mass were from the lectionary for the 29th Sunday of Ordinary Time in Cycle A.  The Gospel reading is from Matthew 22, when Jesus utters the profound statement, as a fine comeback to the schemings of the Jewish religious experts, "Then repay to Casear what belongs to Caesar, and to God what belongs to God".

I am in the image of God, created for His purpose.  His gifts to me in Confirmation have allowed me to be a gift.

More recently, I encountered the magnificent encyclical Dominum et Vivificantem, in which Pope St. John Paul II writes about the Holy Spirit.  Here's one sentence that stands out to me: "In our own age, then, we are called anew by the ever ancient and ever new faith of the Church, to draw near to the Holy Spirit as the giver of life."

Indeed, by my Confirmation, I was sealed in the ancient faith of the Church and I was empowered to live it anew with the very life of Christ imparted to me by the Holy Spirit.

Glory to God!

Party like it's 2005: Here I am with my Uncle Bernie, my sponsor on the left, and Bishop Kane to the right.


My Uncle Bernie and I posed by Ascension last Saturday as I approached the anniversary of my Confirmation. Thanks to fellow parishioner Clem who photographed us.

Fellow parishioner Laurie photographed me by the pew where I sat during my Confirmation Mass when I was there this morning for Mass to celebrate.